10 Ways for Moms to Respect Their Sons.

To see the post by Jen Smidt on The Resurgence Click Here.

It is never too early to start showing that you respect your sons. I know as a young mom I was so concerned about discipline—when, where, why and how to discipline. I wanted this bundle of boy contained into a well-behaved, manageable package. Is that offense punishable by swat? Is he disrespecting me? Why is he so loud and messy? While those are fine questions to ask, looking back, I would rather have spent more time asking myself if I was treating my boys with respect.

My sons thrive in our relationship when respect is generously given. If I want them to look for a wife who respects them one day, I better demonstrate what that looks like now.

What Is Respect?

Let me first say respect is not making my son an idol and bowing down to his every need. Respect is defined as a deep admiration for someone elicited by his or her abilities, qualities, or achievements. A mother’s respect is also not based upon her son’s achievements at the beginning (unless you count squirting her in the eye with confounding accuracy at diaper changing time).

“If our boys are continually being shielded from natural consequences, they will have a distorted sense of self and sin.”

A mother’s respect for her son is founded upon his image bearing of her heavenly Father and belief that God has given her a powerful gift to steward for a season. A mother’s respect is born out of respect for Jesus and the cross: his life makes my life and my son’s life possible. A mother’s respect is based upon her trust in God to develop a godly man, husband, father, and leader out of the tiny one that she holds but for a brief moment.
What Respect Looks Like

I wanted to offer some practical principles to help show what it looks like for a mom to respect her son.

1. Set Jesus as the Standard

There is no man other than Jesus who demonstrates perfection. You will never go wrong in upholding him as the source, pointing to him as the example, and depending upon him for the answers.

2. Pray for Them and Over Them

You aren’t in control of their lives, you never will be. What better time than now to put yourself in submission to God’s plan for your sons by releasing them in prayer? Mothers have an awesome responsibility to pray for the intimate details that she knows about her son’s heart.

3. Watch Your Tone

Respect is often given and destroyed in the little things. I know the look in my son’s eye when I speak to him with a harsh or shaming tone—it is the pain of disrespect. Speak graciously, kindly, and firmly to your sons.

4. Let Them Make Decisions

Start small with choices like red or blue shirt, and move to increasing responsibility over time management and bigger life choices. Give them opportunities to lead in your home: chores, devotions, and family nights can be planned and executed by sons growing in maturity.

5. Serve Them

Love them with food, fun, folding of laundry. Let them see that you are willing to sacrificially serve them. Teach them to be grateful and one day they may actually thank you.

6. Teach Them to Serve You

Respectable men serve others. Servanthood does not come naturally to most of us. As you cheerfully serve your son, make sure you instruct and involve them in active service also. There will come a time when it is no longer sacrificial but sinful for you to be folding your boy’s undies.

7. No Secrets

Hidden sin is an insidious trap for men. Cultivate a climate of open confession and generous forgiveness. It is much more powerful for your son to feel like he can freely confess sin than have to hide in fear of your reaction.

8. Name Sin Biblically

Do not fall into “Boys will be boys” thinking. Differentiate between childish foolishness and downright rebellion. Instruct the former and correct the latter. Name their sin with accurate descriptions from Scripture so they can repent.

9. Name Character Biblically

Read to them and have them study passages of Scripture that speak to men (1 Cor. 16:13-14). Have them memorize passages of Scripture that describes their identity and riches available to them in Christ (Ephesians 1) so they can rejoice.

10. Let Consequences Fall on Their Heads

Respectable men recognize the painful effects of sin. If our boys are continually being shielded from natural consequences, they will have a distorted sense of self and sin. Let them feel the pain of their sin coupled with the restorative effects of grace.

Mothers, respect your sons. Give them this gift early on and by God’s grace, they will grow in respectability and become the godly men we recognized in them from the start.

Pause.

As many of you DON’T know, my family and I are about to move back to Savannah. Our 15 month (temporary) stay in Columbus (Georgia) is coming to an end. I must say I am super happy to get back to Savannah and our home church, home in general and life. I’ve been wanting to do some cool crafts but I keep telling myself no because the move is upon us. This honestly sucks for me. I love creating pieces for the house and sprucing up my surroundings. Since I am limited on what I can do, I have a couple things I am working on. I will blog on those later this week. I also know I haven’t made any DIY products lately either. I have one that needs to be blogged about. It took 2 weeks to create with vinegar and now it is time. So while I pause for craftiness and DIY-ing, I will post a few things I am learning.

To leave you with something from this morning.

Reagan & Luna having some girl time. My dog has quickly become my daughters. They are both 2 and spend every minute they can together. Love.

Easter Sermon.

I have been waiting for this to post online at SCC to share with you. It is the Easter sermon from Savannah Christian and also apart of the Christian Atheist series. Check it out.

Check out the sermon series HERE. The Easter Sermon is Week 9 although I recommend you check them all out.

What is the Christian Atheist Series?

“CHRISTIAN ATHEIST SERIES

“They claim to know God, but by their actions they deny Him.” Titus 1:16

We say we believe in God. And we do. We store information about Him in a far corner of our mind.

But when it comes to real life, we worry all the time. We don’t think God is fair. We’re ashamed of our past.

So what’s going on? We call ourselves Christians but then we often live as if God doesn’t exist and His promises aren’t true.

There’s good news. We can examine our faith in an honest, deep, real way and begin moving toward a more authentic God-honoring life. True Christianity awaits. Find it!”

Your kids want YOU!

I have been on Pinterest way too much lately. All those cool DIY projects for the kids and the food that is beyond creative. Oh, my mind is in sensory overload. What to do? What to do? I honestly am not as crafty as some of those moms are but I want to be as awesome as them. Then I read this on none other than Pinterest.

Power of Mom’s blog post is just what I needed today. Click on the link to read it and let go of the craziness.

“There’s this crazy phenomenon going on right now. Good, devoted mothers get on Pinterest . . . and blogs . . . and Facebook . . . and Twitter . . . and then they flip through parenting magazines and TV channels (full of advertisements and media hype) . . . and they’re convinced they’re not enough.”

You are ENOUGH!

Raising Godly Children.

1.You disobey the Lord…and He is the perfect Father.
2. His kindness leads us to repentance.
3. God disciplines those He loves.
4. Your child’s disobedience does not measure your value any more than his obedience showcases your achievement.
5. Your child’s disobedience teaches you dependence on God.
6. And sometimes it’s more than dependence He’s after, it’s complete desperation for Him.
7. Your child is clearly a sinner, and needs to hear the truth of the Gospel, and see it lived out through you.
8. Times of correction serve to remind, or establish within your child, his own sense of need for a Savior.
9. It’s not good behavior you really desire…you want his heart.
10. Your child is a person, not a project

Thanks to Raising Godly Children for this awesome blog post. Click on their link for more info on raising Godly children.

Passion Week Prayer Walk

Yesterday Marty and I decided to head over to Savannah Christian Church to participate in their PASSION WEEK PRAYER WALK. It was a great start to our Good Friday and for Passover. If you couldn’t make it out I would like to share it with you. At each of the nine stations we walked through, each one had a saying. Then you would pray. If you didn’t know what to pray for or about, SCC wrote out some prayers to help guide you.

Station One:

Jesus in the Garden
Luke 22:41-42
“My Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”

Jesus, I cannot imagine the kind of faith it must have required to yield to the will of the Father knowing the pain and suffering and brutal death that you were facing. But you said, “Yet not as I will, but as you will”.

Station Two:

The Arrest of Jesus
Mark 14:44-46
Now the betrayer had arranged a signal with them…Judas said “Rabbi!” and kissed him. The men seized Jesus and arrested him.”

Jesus, every day I choose the things of this world over you. Every day I betray you either by what I say or think or do. Forgive me for trading you for money or power or fame or comfort or convenience.

Station Three:

Peter Denies Jesus
Mark 14:72
Then Peter remembered the word Jesus had spoken to him: “Before the rooster crows twice you will disown me three times.”

Jesus, not Peter! Not the Rock… the one who said he was ready to go with you to prison and to death! How could he deny you 3 times? How could he deny you even once? Am I like Peter? Do I deny you, Lord?

Station Four:

The Trial of Jesus
John 19:1-3
Then Pilate took Jesus and had him flogged. The soldiers twisted together a crown of thorns and put it on his head…saying, “Hail, king of the Jews!”

Lord, while others tormented and mocked you, would I have been willing to risk everything to ease your suffering for a few moments by letting you know that you were not alone? Forgive me for my indifference and cowardice.

Station Five:

Jesus Accepts His Cross
Mark 15:20
And when they had mocked him, they took off the purple robe and put his own clothes on him. Then they led him out to crucify him.

Jesus, as we walk this way together, show me what is my cross to carry, my burden to bear, and teach me how to shoulder it well. Today is the day for me to learn more what it means for me to take up my cross and follow you.

Station Six:

Jesus is Nailed to the Cross
Luke 23:33
When they came to the place called the Skull, there they crucified him, along with the criminals…

Jesus, you die for me, you give your all for my sins, you become the Man of Sorrows so that I can have joy. As we walk this path together, I learn that sometimes there are no words. Lord, speak to me in the silence.

Station Seven:

The Last Words of Jesus
Luke 23:34
Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.

Jesus, although undeserving, you, in your mercy, offer me the grace I need to be able to love and forgive those who have hurt me in the same way I have hurt you. I receive this gift of grace now with a humble and grateful heart.

Station Eight:

Jesus Dies of the Cross
Luke 23:46
Jesus called out with a loud voice, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.” When he had said this, he breathed his last.

Lord, as we walk this path together, teach me how to let go when it is time. Teach me to relinquish that very last breath of a thing that I think is mine to claim in this life, so that I can live in total abandonment to you.

Station Nine:

Jesus is Laid in the Tomb
Mark 15:46
So Joseph bought some linen cloth, took down the body, wrapped it in the linen, and placed it in the tomb cut out of rock.

Jesus, we follow those who carry your body to the tomb and wait in silence as it is laid there and the tomb is sealed.

Good Friday.

Marty, my hubby and go to for all things religious had me read this for Good Friday. I wanted to share. Click to see the full article from The Resurgence.

The Good (the Bad and the Ugly) Friday

“Why do we call it Good Friday if it’s the day when Jesus was murdered?”

If you haven’t fielded that question from a child or a newcomer to the Christian faith, you’ve probably wondered yourself. The common answer is “It’s good for us, because the cross is how Jesus saved us.”

But there is more to the story. The day Christ died was a good, bad, and ugly day like no other. And if you observe this day in the fullness of what it represents, your worship will be all the more passionate and truth-honoring, like sweet incense rising toward heaven.

First, the good (emphasis ours):

But it was the Lord’s good plan to crush him and cause him grief. Yet when his life is made an offering for sin, he will have many descendants. He will enjoy a long life, and the Lord’s good plan will prosper in his hands. When he sees all that is accomplished by his anguish, he will be satisfied. And because of his experience, my righteous servant will make it possible for many to be counted righteous, for he will bear all their sins. I will give him the honor of a victorious soldier, because he exposed himself to death.

Isaiah 53:10-12 NLT

Jesus paid our debt, and saved us from God’s wrath. For the joy set before him, Christ chose to do his Father’s will, in spite of the pain, the shame, the horror. The gospel is far beyond anything else we could consider “good.”

Forbid it, Lord, that I should boast, Save in the death of Christ my God! All the vain things that charm me most, I sacrifice them to his blood.

—Isaac Watts “When I Survey the Wondrous Cross”

The bad:

He was oppressed and treated harshly, yet he never said a word. He was led like a lamb to the slaughter. And as a sheep is silent before the shearers, he did not open His mouth. Unjustly condemned, he was led away. No one cared that he died without descendants, that his life was cut short in midstream. But he was struck down for the rebellion of my people.

Isaiah 53:7-8 NLT

The authorities tortured and murdered Jesus in the cruelest way they could devise. He was mocked, flogged, beaten, forced to wear a crown of thorns, and nailed from his hands and feet to a wooden cross.

Our Savior suffered like no other, for a joy like no other.

Don’t become desensitized to the violence. Consider afresh the horrors our Lord endured. In the words of the African American spiritual “Were You There?”

“Sometimes it causes me to tremble.”

The ugly:

He was despised and rejected—a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on him and looked the other way. He was despised and we did not care.

Isaiah 53:3 NLT

All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.

Isaiah 53:6 NLT

Judas betrayed him. His closest disciples fell asleep when he asked them to pray with him. Peter denied even knowing him, three times. His neighbors shouted “Crucify him!” His friends cowered in the distance.

And let’s not be smug. As our friend Mars Hill Worship Pastor Joe Day wrote in “What Have We Done”:

Peter denied you three times, I have denied you more.

At some point, most of us have shirked from taking a stand for Christ, and for far less significant reasons than the threat that Peter felt.

Finally, even his Father forsook him to fulfill the requirement of the covenant. God placed all the wrath that we deserved on Jesus. No one has ever been so utterly alone. This is ugly.

Bad Friday.

Ugly Friday.

And ultimately for our fate and for the glory of God, Good Friday.

Our Savior suffered like no other, for a joy like no other.

Palm Sunday.

Today is Palm Sunday. Marty and I couldn’t make it to service this morning, however we did make it to service this evening at Savannah Christian Church’s LateChurch. It was the first time we had ever been to SCC’s LateChurch, however we have heard the campus paster, David Allgire, before. The sermon was great and the music was awesome. To see more from the LateChurch click HERE. If you are looking for a church to call home, I would encourage you to see what all the Savannah Christian Church has to offer. They currently have 4 campuses, Henderson, East Campus, LateChurch, and Effingham. Savannah Christian Leads People to a Life Changing Connection with Jesus Christ. Please click HERE and come to one of the many services each weekend. You will not be let down.

According to ShareFaith, Palm Sunday is:

Palm Sunday is one of the most important days in the Christian calendar after Christmas and Easter. Palm Sunday is the Sunday before Easter, and marks the beginning of Holy Week, the week of events leading up to Jesus’ death.

The History of Palm Sunday
The celebration of Palm Sunday originated in the Jerusalem Church, around the late fourth century. The early Palm Sunday ceremony consisted of prayers, hymns, and sermons recited by the clergy while the people walked to various holy sites throughout the city. At the final site, the place where Christ ascended into heaven, the clergy would read from the gospels concerning the entry of Jesus into Jerusalem. In the early evening they would return to the city reciting: “Blessed is He that comes in the name of the Lord.” The children would carry palm and olive branches as the people returned through the city back to the church, where they would hold evening services.

By the fifth century, the Palm Sunday celebration had spread as far as Constantinople. Changes made in the sixth and seventh centuries resulted in two new Palm Sunday traditions – the ritual blessing of the palms, and a morning procession instead of an evening one. Adopted by the Western Church in the eighth century, the celebration received the name “Dominica in Palmis,” or “Palm Sunday”.

The Meaning of Palm Sunday
Palm Sunday commemorates the triumphal entry of Jesus into Jerusalem to celebrate the Passover. The gospels record the arrival of Jesus riding into the city on a donkey, while the crowds spread their cloaks and palm branches on the street and shouted “Hosanna to the Son of David” and “Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord” to honor him as their long-awaited Messiah and King.

The significance of Jesus riding a donkey and having his way paved with palm branches is a fulfillment of a prophecy spoken by the prophet Zechariah (Zechariah 9:9). In biblical times, the regional custom called for kings and nobles arriving in procession to ride on the back of a donkey. The donkey was a symbol of peace; those who rode upon them proclaimed peaceful intentions. The laying of palm branches indicated that the king or dignitary was arriving in victory or triumph.

Palm Sunday in Modern Times
Today, Palm Sunday traditions are much the same as they have been since the tenth century. The ceremony begins with the blessing of the palms. The procession follows, then Mass is celebrated, wherein the Passion and the Benediction are sung. Afterwards, many people take the palms home and place them in houses, barns, and fields.

In some countries, palms are placed on the graves of the departed. In colder northern climates, where palm trees are not found, branches of yew, willow, and sallow trees are used. The palms blessed in the ceremony are burned at the end of the day. The ashes are then preserved for next year’s Ash Wednesday celebration.

In the simplest of terms, Palm Sunday is an occasion for reflecting on the final week of Jesus’ life. It is a time for Christians to prepare their hearts for the agony of His Passion and the joy of His Resurrection.

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