Teaching Kids Responsibility doesn’t come easy anymore. In my home, I feel like I am raising self absorbed brats that I want to smack with my flip flop (that’s a Hispanic thing if you didn’t know).
As if Teaching Kids Responsibility wasn’t hard enough, we also have to teach them to hold themselves accountable. I really don’t know what is worse.
Don’t tell my son, but recently we had to ground him for “hiding behind ignorance”. We have all done it before but it seems he does it more frequently than we would like. He knows when he shouldn’t do something (like get up early so he can play on the computer before we all wake up) and then will say “he didn’t know it would be a problem”. Clearly, an 11 year-old on YouTube at 7 a.m. is a problem. He’s not watching garbage. He’s actually watching tutorials on MineCraft (I check the history log and he doesn’t know about that secret just yet).
With this new punishment, Marty and I agreed to stay firm even though his birthday is this week. We’ve agreed that because he must be held accountable for his actions, he will not be getting any presents. He is also grounded for two weeks. Three if you count him “hiding behind his ignorance” again by telling me he didn’t know that he couldn’t watch tv during bedtime. OH MY WORD. It’s the reason he was grounded for. He is clearly not paying attention.
I can’t be alone out there. Am I?
I’ve let my kids get away with everything for so long. We’ve recently decided to hold each other accountable in the parenting department and stick to the punishments. I must admit this will be hard. However, I want to raise responsible adults and lying and “ignorance” will not cut it. Stay strong in the parenting fight. You are not alone.
_ A struggling mom who wants her kids to have the world but not be brats!