Are you a MARSHMALLOW mom? Here we go with another “mom name”.
First off – I am tired of the names we give to each other. I understand there are good moms and bad moms. The title bad moms refers to the ones who mistreat, abuse, or desert their children. However, why do we have to keep labeling moms? And what the heck is a marshmallow mom?
“A marshmallow mom is a total pushover. She takes the shape of the parent her child wants her to be, enabling unhealthy habits and overlooking bad manners. Though well-meaning, marshmallow moms inadvertently encourage entitlement, disrespect, laziness and selfishness in their kids.
Tying a child’s shoes for far too long, letting rudeness and disrespect slide or giving a teenager a relaxing summer off instead of encouraging that first job seem like kind and tender approaches, but this flavor of parenting is no good for our kids. We need to start asking ourselves, Are we helping our children in the long run?” – Focus On The Family.
Are You a Marshmallow Mom?
How does marshmallow even come into play here? “She takes the shape of the parent her child wants her to be…” Well a marshmallow is short and fat to me. And they don’t “push over” that easily (pun intended). Guess what everyone, it doesn’t hurt to be “friends” with your kids. But please still be their parent and discipline them so they don’t grow up to be entitled jerks.
It’s okay for your kids to be your friends!
My oldest is 12. I still want him to look at me as a parent but also as a confidant. I parent him fairly strictly but I know when to back off. Yesterday, he was acting a little funny after hanging out with the neighborhood kids. I asked him what was going on and guess what? He told me. Parent win. I was then able to give my advice from a parent standpoint and from being a girl (yes, it had to do with two girls who both “asked” him out).
Be a parent. Be a mom who loves her kid. Talk to them. And stop letting anyone place you or your kids within a label. P.S. – if your kid wants to have a “relaxing summer”, let him/her. Did you ever think that we may be taking away from their childhood just a little too early? Signed – a girl who started working at 15 and bought her own car in cash and paid her own way in college.